Leave the Lump Alone

Today I got to see my doctor for my  official post-op visit. The first visit, right after surgery, was to take out the sutures. This one was to measure progress.

I can actually say that doing the videos and the pictures was a little pleasurable because I know that I look much better. What a difference five months can make! I didn't tear up, I smiled for the camera. Knowing it wasn't perfect. But damn it, it's a smile and it's MINE!

Now, did I mention the 1/2 grape size lump on the side of my cheek? I probably should've called the doc but it wasn't particularly painful and I figured it was swelling. Well, it's not swelling; he put  something in my cheek to help protect the nerve while it healed. "Should I massage it?", I asked. An emphatic NO came from my surgeon. It will dissolve! Leave the lump alone. And so I shall. 

My doc believes I will be able to move my upper left lip eventually and get my eye function completely back. Because of my progress he's going to wait on Botox and then in three months decide (and probably schedule) a lid tuck and lip nip. I have a puffy part of my lower right lip that never resumed it's position after Bells 15 years ago. I want it fixed. I've come this far; why not. The lid tuck will give me eye lids again (Bring on Ipsy's eyeshadow!!!....Ipsy is a monthly makeup mailing thing and I've been saving the makeup for that one particular day when I feel I am ready for it again. I'm hoping that's 2016)

I'm still taping the eye shut at night. I was hoping to only go through one roll. I'll be optimistic and think 1-1/2 now. Oh and get this.....the one day that the tape comes off at night, I get an eye infection, is the day of the BLIZZARD in Virginia, and I break my glasses. REALLY??. So I just sat REALLY close to the TV for a few days. I have a feeling though that there were a lot of us saying "REALLY??" this past week. (Melt already!)

Actually, life it starting to normalize; especially now that I CAN DRINK FROM A GLASS!!!!! I bet there were a few "Yay's" there from my Bell Tower Buds. It's the simple things that keep us going from day to day; a little eye lid twitch, the face tingles, the day you don't drool when you drink. Although I know some people who drink and then drool. LOL!!! Anyway....wishing you many simple pleasures and thanks as always for your love and support.


ox
Mia

Four Weeks Today

Surgery was four weeks ago today. I'm really happy with the progress. I can smile! My lips on the left side are still pretty paralyzed but as you can see my cheek is rising! My eye is coming back slowly but surely although I am still taping it shut at night. The sides of my face are definitely still tender and actually kinda stiff and numb. I would really like a back massage but there's absolutely no way I could put my face in that hole in a table. Who likes to really do that anyway…

I get a lot of tingles like I'm getting stuck with pins but that only means the nerves are receiving and sending signals! It's weird because my face will get a pain in it and I will go to touch it and I can't feel my touch but it makes the pain go away. Does that make any sense at all? They said it will take a little while for the numbness to go away because my skin had to be separated from my face. (Eww.)

 I have a follow-up appointment on 27th of January where I might get some Botox injections to relax the right side a little more. It all depends on what the doctor and I think. 

I am putting make up on again, I am dressing up again, I am feeling more confident which all brings tears of joy.… 

Crap, there goes my eye make up! 

PS- it took me a long time to decide to actually post this photo because you may not see anything wrong with it but I do. But it's important for me to put it out there for those of you who are hiding in your bell tower.

Ox,

Mia

Bell Tower Survival Guide

Bell Tower Survival Guide

Since I've had Bells Palsy twice, I thought I'd give you some sage advice while you are healing....

1. You are your own worst critic. 

People don't see you the way you see yourself. Be kinder to that face in the mirror. Give yourself a break and get lots of rest. (Yes, I know that's asking a lot but it's important for healing) Remember, you are allowed to cry and hide just for a bit. Then you need to pull up your big girl/boy pants and get on with life. It sucks. Facial paralysis really sucks. You'll survive though, believe me......you will go on.

2. Get some really good eye tape! 

More than likely, your eyelid is paralyzed open or does not blink fully. Your eye will tend to pop open at night while you are sleeping so it’s important to tape it shut. This will prevent infection from a dry eye. I have tried numerous types of tape. Very sticky tape will take the skin off your face every morning but weak tape will not last through the crocodile tears and the crying jags you will go through. I’ve posted a picture of the tape I have found most successful.  I’ve also found that an eye mask is helpful. Slit the eye mask open on one side and stuff it with a little cotton. This will create enough pressure to help the eye stay closed while you sleep.

Definitely USE THE EYE TAPE IN THE SHOWER! There is nothing worse than getting soap in your eye every time you wash your hair. (Okay, there are worse things, but you know what I mean.)

Love this particular foam tape! I picked it up at a local pharmacy. Sticky enough but not hurtful.

3. Know the difference between eye drops.

Most of us suffer from an eye that either doesn't blink or barely does. Your eye's can become irritated and dry. Especially when you are focused on reading or staring at a computer screen reading my blog. For this reason, it's important to have good eye drops. There are two types of drops; ones with preservatives and one without. You can use the preservative drops twice a day; more than that and you can develop crystallization in your tear ducts which can cause other issues. You can use the preservative free drops multiple times. They come in little blister vials. Personally, I liked Systane. Unfortunately, they are not cheap but you are worth it. Keep a few around so when you lose one (which I have plenty of times) you are good to go. Pat your eye instead of wiping; it'll keep you from stretching the skin. 

4. Time to break out the glasses.

If you have contacts, get glasses. Contact lenses just don't work well when you have Bells. Your eye dries out faster now and wearing contacts will just irritate them. So just suck it up and get glasses. Go for the librarian look ladies! Gentlemen; glasses make you look smart too!

5. Straws are your friend. 

Who knew the simple act of drinking out of a glass was so important. Bells paralysis can make drinking in public embarrassing. Stock up on straws! The thinner the better. Fatter ones are hard to navigate with paralyzed lips. Put them in your car, purse, pocket and be ready to whip one out even when wine/beer is served. I recycle mine and rinse them out at home. Worse than soap in the eye is drowning while drinking. It's hard to drink without the use of lips- be careful out there but enjoy a drink, you deserve it!  NOTE: unfortunately, eating soup can also be a problem. Your lips won’t form around the spoon. Take your time and be prepared with napkins.

6. Have patience the first 3 month’s but then get aggressive with treatment. 

If you don't see any improvement and your doctor isn't helping, step it up. Personally, I went to see an Otolaryngologist and that's the only doctor who knew and understood what I was going through and how to help me. Do not accept "There's nothing we can do." from your doctor. Find another one. Synkenisis (the “popeye” face bunching) can be relieved. There are doctor’s that specialize in facial re-animation. I hope for your sake it never gets to that point. But if it does, you have resources.

7. Smiling from the inside

Here’s the toughest one; not being able to smile. The simple act of showing emotion is stymied. For some of us, you cannot move your lips at all, for others, only one side rises. Psychologically, it’s probably the hardest part of having Bells Palsy and the most devastating. As you know through my blog, my son used to mimic my crooked face when he was a toddler, which threw me for a loop. For most of you, your smile will return, in time. For those who suffer severe nerve damage, you have options for reanimation. It’s a slow road to recovery either way. REMEMBER, you see your face every day. You don't notice the changes as much as someone who only see's you every week or so. And some may never realize you have a problem. I can only tell you that over time, you will recover or embrace a new normal and that life will go on.

8. Join a support group. 

If you feel yourself retreating into your bedroom for more than a few days, it's time to get help. No one talks about it but there is a deep psychological side to this disease (?), virus (?) whatever it is. I know it's hard to face the world. I'm with you. There are many support groups on Facebook or blogs like these. We are here for each other. Reach out and know you are not alone.

9. Hug yourself!

For me, it's a new normal. After this many years, my face will only do so much. For the majority of you, you will recover fully. Either way, love yourself and the skin you are in. We only go around once, you might as well do it laughing, loving and living!

What helps you get through the day? Please post in reply's.

Coming out of my Bell Tower after 15 years. I'm about 1/3 of the way down. (tall tower)

Your Bells Palsy Sister,

Mia